| Reactive Language | Proactive Language |
|---|---|
| There's nothing I can do | Let's look at our alternatives |
| That's just the way I am | I can choose a different approach |
| He/She makes me so mad | I can control my own feelings |
| They won't allow that | I can create an effective presentation |
| I have to do that | I will choose an appropriate response |
| I can't | I choose |
| I must | I prefer |
| If only | I will |